Mindfulness in Lincolnshire
How does it help?
All we have is the present moment. The past has gone and the future is yet to unfold and yet
so often we seem to find it hard to be in the present.
What may stop us?
Often it is because we are in the habits of
the mind, without even realising they
are habits. Either thinking or worrying about the future, or
going over the past.
We may also be
carrying that inner voice with us that constantly criticises and judges what we do.
As a consequence we lose touch with the
present moment and miss many wonderful and helpful things.
We may also be waiting for the challenges of
life to be over so we can relax and start to enjoy ourselves.
What we may not
realise is that all these ups and downs are life. We may resist what is
happening and even dislike it, but this doesn’t stop it. This resistance can
bring additional stress, strain and tension.
Mindfulness helps us to discover what may block us from being in the present moment. By learning to stay
present we have a better chance of noticing what is happening. As a result we may make more effective responses and choices; and as
Mindfulness is helping us to be more present it can enhance whatever we choose to do.
As we pay more attention, even to the things we don’t like. Mindfulness
encourages us to be with what is happening, exactly as it is. It can help with both the problem and any
resistance to it and so reduce much of the additional strain.
Another way Mindfulness helps is because it can help us
to be more in the present moment and less on "automatic pilot".
Often we may be “miles
away” without knowing it. For example when we are in a car, we can jump in
and reach our destination without really being aware of how we got
there. We may know this as being on "automatic pilot.
If we continue in this way
we are more likely develop habits of behaviour that we get stuck in, and
might not even like. Mindfulness teaches us to develop a
wider awareness so that we can see more clearly the patterns of our
minds that may get us stuck in our pain. These patterns could brooding
and rumination on the one hand or avoidance and suppression on the
other. These patterns often seem to come
"out of nowhere".
By becoming more aware of our thoughts,
feelings and body sensations, from moment to moment, we no longer have
to go into the same old "habits of thought" that may have caused
problems in the past. As a result we may give ourselves the possibility
of greater freedom and choice and to find alternative more helpful ways
We live in a world that seems busy and
full of things to do. We might ask what’s wrong with that? What’s
wrong with how busy life can be?
There may be nothing right or
wrong with this but many people do report increases in stress levels,
emotional problems and physical health problems. So in practical
ways we may be increasingly interested in how we can steady our
focus of attention and find ways to feel we are coping with everyday
We may also notice that our attention and
focus may often be scattered. We may be doing one thing and thinking
about the next thing or even thinking of many other things all at once.
Although there can be a place for this, Mindfulness can offer an
alternate way of being with what we are doing and so improve our
focus and attention.
Mindfulness and Mindful Self-Compassion
in Lincoln and the surrounding area